How to Become Unstoppable!

What does it mean to become unstoppable?

Well, becoming unstoppable means that we have found our momentum and our capacity to keep going, to keep moving forward regardless of the hurdles or obstacles that might show up and get in our way. More than anything else, unstoppability is a mindset and way of orienting to the things we are doing that allows us to make progress over time.

The first step in becoming unstoppable is to align how we are showing up in the practices and activities we are doing to increase our wellbeing with a growth mindset. Take a moment to self reflect on your inner dialogue, your thoughts and feelings around your practices and how you are doing your daily life in support of increasing your wellbeing. Are you coming at it from the mindset of, "this is a gift to do these practices" or "I choose me, so I lovingly show up in ways that support my needs and my growth", or is it more of a dread or resistance to doing practices, dragging ourselves through our day, a focus on what we don't have or what hasn't changed yet, a frustration with where we are, or a strong desire to prioritize everything else above yourself?

The more honestly you can look at this, witness, and acknowledge what is going on inside (with self compassion rather than your inner critic) the better the position you will be in to then choose what mindset you want to adopt moving forward. As I said in the last blog, insight is not enough, we have to take action. So the action in this case is starting to adopt and practice orienting to your activities in a way that will enable you to do what you need to move forward, and to do it from a place of wanting to, knowing that its supporting you, knowing you are worthy and deserving of health and wellbeing and have a right to prioritize yourself, and knowing that there is room for your needs to be met along with other people's needs.

The second step is to notice how we respond both internally and externally to challenges or setbacks. Do we see challenges from the mindset of, "oh here we go again" or "is this ever going to change"? Do we use up our energy and resources to push back and fight against what is because we don't want it to be happening? Or, do we see it as a growth opportunity, a chance to reflect on what led us here and what we might do differently next time? Can we look at how we are showing up in those moments of difficulty and whether we are supporting ourselves to move out of it or adding fuel to the fire? Remember what we resist not only persists, but it often grows. What we accept opens up space to then look at how to move forward. Once I again I invite you to take some time to really reflect on how you are showing up during these times. What you are saying to yourself and others, how you are behaving, what your assumptions and expectations are regarding the experience. Then come up with one thing you are willing to change and take action on in the way that you are showing up that will align you with moving forward.

The third step in becoming unstoppable is an extension of the second, which is to deeply know and understand that as human beings we are designed to learn and grow through failure, mistakes, and setbacks. Every skill we have learned over the course of our lives has come from doing it over and over again, giving ourselves permission and space to be imperfect as we are learning and developing, being committed and never giving up. We know that repetition is how we create lasting changes in the brain, we know that as we revisit things we gain deeper understanding, clarity, insight, and nuance that supports us. The founder of the Art of Living Foundation says that what stops learning & growth in its tracks is when we say to ourselves, "I already know this" or "I've already done this". This shuts down possibility. We have to be willing to keep coming back over and over with a growth orientation so that we can eventually develop the skills and ways of showing up that move us beyond these experiences.

So if we have a setback, can we be curious about it? From the state of a neutral and curious observer, can we look at what there might be for us to learn from this experience and what actions we are going to take next time not only to reduce the likelihood of having a setback but to learn how to engage with them differently when they do arise? Setbacks are actually one of our biggest opportunities and if we can take advantage of them, they can catapult us forward toward resilience and wellbeing.

The fourth and final piece is to be able to keep a bigger picture perspective in mind. Do you have a clear vision of where you are headed and what you want for yourself, what you want your life to look like? I often think of Joe Dispenza saying that if we don't have something clear that we are working toward, the energy will simply go back to the default, the old ways of being and doing that keeps us limited. We need to know what we are working toward, to give ourselves permission to connect with our deepest desires for our wellbeing, and to use the energy and momentum that comes with that desire to help us go the distance. So keep coming back to your vision and asking yourself, what is it that I am willing to commit to in order to move myself toward that vision? What is the one next small step I can take that will bring me closer to it?

We also want to remember that ups and downs are part of the path, and that when we can normalize that, let go of fear around it, look past the details of what is happening in the moment and instead focus on how far we've come and where we are going, that is what helps to make us unstoppable!

I would like to invite you to join me for a free Transformational Coaching Experience, Saturday July 12th at 9am Pacific/12pm Eastern/5pm UK where we will dive more into the practices and tools that help make us unstoppable and I will be sharing about an upcoming group coaching opportunity to go deeper with this work.

Register here or go to http://tiny.cc/TCexperience

Best wishes!

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Candy Widdifield, M.Ed., Certified Master Coach

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